Sunday #16: Dear Dad
Dear Dad, I wrote to Mom on Mother's Day, so it is only fair that I write to you on Father's Day. But the thing is, I have never had much interest in being fair, since fairness has never had much interest in me. "Fairness is not a planet we live on" , I am often telling my clients. There is no inherent justice, only cause and effect--the natural world and the laws of physics. This is why I find family relations so intriguing, perplexing, and mysterious, because they don't seem to follow these laws. On the contrary, they are often a big sloppy mess. While it would be great if family could be easy peasy all the time, I do suspect that this would be somewhat boring. I also suspect, Dad, that your family life was rarely easy peasy for you. It could have been at times, but you were unfortunately "blessed" to have a physically abusive father and a complicit mother (which is what most mothers were back in those days). This does not mean that they were bad peo...
